Archive | May 2014

Beyond Deeds!

Give if you can, without expectations
Love if you can, without conditions
Live if you can, without regrets
Talk if you can, without negativity
Listen if you can, without judgement
Laugh if you can, without inhibitions
Think if you can, without boundaries
Know if you can, with realization
Dream if you can, with conviction
Appreciate, if you can, in all honesty
And certainly know that you can,
And that you surely will,
As soon as you WANT to.

Filter, filter on the call, what is important of them all?

There are lots of things that we get free in this world – like air, nature, love, special offers, advice 🙂 etc.

Some of the things that are freely available are of immense value while some others may not be as valuable. And hence, it is useful to have a filter before accepting what is offered. The important question would be – “Do I really need it?”

For example, when we visit someone for a meal, out of love, the host serves more food on your plate than you might need. Although the intent is positive, the effect may not be. When the body takes in more than what is required it turns into a toxic waste. The concept of ‘don’t waste food’ is good if you keep it to the extent of taking only what is necessary on your plate. But when it comes to finishing what is on your plate, irrespective of whether your body needs it or not – that makes it poisonous. At least, if left on your plate, it may prove useful for other forms of life. Another example would be at a buffet meal. The variety is vast and we want to do justice to all that is available and that is where we give a chance for some toxic waste to be accumulated in our body.

Information today is also widely available and almost for free. Ask Google, and it will never let you down. You will get what you want, may want and don’t want as well. This may lead to what we call an ‘information overload’. But imagine if we use a filter to take only what we need. Then information remains useful and relevant. Also, the chaos and confusion due to excess information is avoided. Information overload is often a result of filter failure at our end than anything else.

Another example is guilt, abuse, negative energy, advice or emotional baggage – available in plenty for no cost. Here again, filters are necessary. What you don’t need will always remain useless no matter whom you get it from. One of the ways of inflicting misery on ourselves is by accepting what we don’t need either because they came for free, or from someone we love or because we couldn’t say ‘NO’.

To leave you with a thought – think of a recent time where you were offered something you did not need – Did you filter? If you did, what was your filter mechanism and how is it working for you?

If you are uncomfortable using a filter because you are thinking, ‘what if it offends someone’, that my friend, is yet another classic example of filter failure. You may just be accepting a free guilt trip. Free or not free, filters are necessary. Even as you are reading this, use your filter and take only what you think is necessary.

Happy Filtering! 🙂

A Life Beyond Measure!

We humans and our innate desire to measure!
Eternally curious to know which is the tallest mountain, the deepest sea, the prettiest flower.
Ever wondered if the sea or the mountain cared if they were the highest or the deepest?
They simply are what they are!
Does the rose ever care if it is the prettiest flower?
It simply is!

Fancy measuring happiness in litres or kilograms
And saying I am 10 litres happy or 2 tons sad? 🙂
The most precious things in life are often not measurable
Like love, happiness, gratitude, hunger, compassion, devotion, determination, sincerity, etc.
In a competitive world, will quantity overpower quality? Nope!

What fun would it be, if we lived for a 100 years,
Married at the right age, had kids at the right age,
Worked till the right age, retired at the right age,
Died at the right age (if there ever is one) –
And if we are not happy at the end of the day,
If we’ve not made a difference to the world in which we existed!

We call it one year when the earth completes one revolution.
Because of that, our age goes up by one.
What if the earth took 1000 days to complete one rotation?
Does that mean we are younger – because the measure changes?

We are only as young as we imagine
As happy as we feel
As intelligent as we think
As charming as we believe!

Unique you are and unique you will be!
To exist in a relative measure all the time is an effort!
You are one of a kind and there’s no one else quite like you.
With whatever combination you are made of;
Celebrate life – without comparison – it surely is worth it!

Even if a 100 things may have gone wrong in the past,
The 101st is waiting to happen the right way.
Believe in it! And your belief shall make it come true.
Measure not your life with the past
For ahead, lies the best!

 

Being practical – in theory. :)

Quite an oxymoron there isn’t it! That’s what amused me too. I met a friend and that’s where this began.

We were having a serious conversation about one of those important things in life (you know what I mean ;)). This friend kept asking a lot of questions – ‘what if this…’ and ‘what if that…’After listening to a bunch of ‘what if’s’, I asked him what’s important about all of these what if’s. He replied , ‘it’s all about being practical after all isn’t it? And hence, these questions’. I was clearly amused by this response and immediately said, “That, somehow, seems to be the exact opposite of being practical.” That’s like being practical in theory – or being hypothetically practical.

The possibilities of ‘what if’s’ are almost endless. There can be a ‘what if’ after a ‘what if’ and we may not find a final answer or the right answer. I am not averse to asking the ‘what if’ question. In fact, I think it is good to think ahead at times and think holistic. However, it is also good to be aware if we are being controlled by the questions or if we are controlling the questions. There’s nothing right or wrong. It’s just that we may miss out on living life and being practical in reality because we are so caught up in the theory or philosophy of being practical. Knowing that hypothetical questions can only have hypothetical answers and that, reality may be different – can keep us from getting swept away in a barrage of ‘what if’ analysis. Also, attempting to find answers to all our ‘what if’ questions before we could arrive at our decision may lead to delay in decisions or ineffectiveness in decision making. One of the keys to fast and effective decisions is the ability to deal with a certain amount of ambiguity.

It’s not about having all the answers. It is more about asking the right questions, knowing what’s important and being able to embrace clarity and ambiguity equally. There’s a lot of fun in going with the flow as well. While daring to dream is good, caring to make it a reality is what matters at the end of a day. And what’s important is being able to weed out all things unnecessary and focus on what’s most important. There’s no dearth of information around us. But how much do we actually need to know to do what we want to do in the best way – it’s important to establish that. The reality of practicality is simple. The theory may be more complex. Let’s not think it over and instead, live it up!